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Demi Lovato Re-Adopted She/Her Pronouns Because Explaining They/Them Pronouns Was Exhausting

Demi Lovato has changed her gender identity yet again, because she says she got tired of explaining they/them pronouns

“I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting,” the “Cool for the Summer” singer told GQ Hype Spain in an interview published Tuesday.

“I just got tired. But for that very reason I know that it is important to continue spreading the word.”

Lovato, who is currently dating musician Jutes, also said she wishes for more gender-neutral spaces for everyone, as she has found herself torn over basic amenities such as sex-assigned bathrooms and paperwork.

“I face this every day. For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it,” she explained.

“Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me.”

The “Camp Rock” star, 30, said she is “conditioned” to select “woman” because there are no other options.

“I think this has to change,” she shared. “Hopefully with time there will be more options.”

Lovato came out as non-binary in May 2021.

“With that said, I’ll officially be changing my pronouns to ‘they/them,’” she shared on her “4D with Demi Lovato” podcast at the time.

“I feel this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering.”

More than a year later, the “Heart Attack” singer said she was adding “she/her” again because she had been feeling “more feminine.”

“But I think what’s important is, like, nobody’s perfect,” she said on the “Spout” podcast in August 2022.

“Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning. It’s just all about respect.”

I'm exhausted talking about this. At this point I feel Demi is nothing more than a clout chasing fraud, because we as queer people consistently have to come out to new people all the time.

We also have to explain to people consistently the nuances of what it's like being queer and all of it's complexities.

So real people who truly identify as nonbinary, it may get frustrating, but as long as you live by how you identify, you're constantly going to have to explain your binaries.

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